Emotionally & Mentally “strong” children

My involvement with children, as a university teacher, as a mentor and researcher in Emotional Intelligence and Psychomanagement team, has helped me understand why I behave, express myself and think in specific ways, which under different circumstances usually diverge. Some of what I dared to look for and managed to find out, I felt the need to share with you. My conversation with parents about their children was a motivation and maybe, by discussing them with you, I will be able to systematize them.

It is a fact that we live in an increasingly stressful world. That’s why it has never been more important than today to enhance the emotional and mental resilience of our children.

Mentally strong children are not only better prepared to deal with future problems on their own, but studies have shown that they are also more likely to take their studies and careers seriously in the future.

Certainly, it will not be easy for parents to discreetly help their children to develop emotional and mental resilience. But avoiding some common practices, which are listed below, can help to contribute effectively. Let’s start!

Limiting the expression of our child’s feelings.
The child should know that it is healthy to express and talk about their feelings. Many times parents, when they use expressions such as “do not be sad or do not regret it”, or “it is not the end of the world”, or “eh! what happened is not so important “, or” It is not worth being angry with your friend, your teacher or your coach “etc, they send the message to the child that emotions do not matter and that it is better to suppress them -to “drown them inside”.
If our child expresses fear during the coronation, for example, we may be thinking of saying, “I understand you are scared at this time,” and asking what he or she thinks will make him or her feel better. Our role as parents is to understand where each child’s every emotion and thought comes from, and to help with limited subjectivity, to gradually manage and deal with his own feelings and thoughts on his own. This can be achieved by encouraging the practitioner to choose answers-solutions. That is, to exchange ideas until he finds the way that suits him and works positively for himself.