How to build resilience against failure

Focusing on practices to enhance our children’s emotional and mental resilience, we will tackle the following practice: protecting our children from failure. A common practice we usually use as parents is to try to save our child from some possible failure. But by applying this practice do we realize that we are not giving our child the opportunity to learn to overcome a negative situation, so that he can come out of it stronger psychologically and spiritually?

We wondered, how will our children react when faced with a negative situation, but has not experienced the feeling of failure and negative emotions, respectively the situation he is facing?

It is a fact that, as parents, it is very difficult to see our children struggling in their efforts to manage challenges, to find solutions / answers to problems and concerns, which we know we can easily offer them. But if we think for a while and distance ourselves from the emotion, then we will understand that, if our child, for example, does not “do well” in school and we offer him the answers for the work he prepares, then we only harm them. We offer them a “crutch”.

We do not allow them to take the baton in his hands and realize that they will run the course. In this way, they inadvertently become addicted to a form of dependence on our constant presence and offering of a safety net, which will not exist when they are alone at school to answer a test, in the field of sports, in having fun with friends, and later when a project should be managed.

As a result, the children will always expect the solution from someone else, because they will not have been given the opportunity to learn through failure, which is a big part of success. If children do not take their lessons drop by drop, do not experience small failures in proportion to “Mithridaticism“, they will not be able to develop the necessary resilience, emotional and spiritual, to get up after a failure.